The email came in at 3:17pm on a Tuesday in June. I remember the time because the kettle had just clicked off and I was reaching for the tea. PG Tips, because I'd dragged a twelve-pack back from Manchester in my hand luggage on the last trip home. Marcus was on a work call in the bedroom, something about a refinance. I opened my laptop, saw the email from Home Affairs, and read the first line three times before I understood what it said.
I am not satisfied that the relationship between you and your sponsor is genuine and continuing.
I want to start there because that's the moment I remember most. Not the lodgement. Not the photos we collected, or the night we sat at the kitchen table writing relationship statements with the cat on Marcus's lap. Just that Tuesday at 3:17pm and the wording of the first sentence.
If you're reading this because you've just had your own version of that email, I want you to know two things. The first is that you're not alone, and the second is that we got the visa in the end, three years later, after the Administrative Review Tribunal sent it back to the Department with directions to grant. That doesn't make the day you read your refusal letter any easier. But it might be useful to know that there's a version of this story where it ends with you being a permanent resident.
I'm Sarah. I came to Australia on a working holiday in October 2019, three weeks before my 30th birthday, and I never really left. I'd been doing freelance marketing in London for a few years and I wanted six months in the sun. By the time the world fell apart in February 2020, I'd already extended once, taken a contract in Melbourne, and met Marcus at our friend Pip's 30th in Brunswick. (Pip is going to come back into this story, briefly. She knows a lot of people.)
Marcus is Australian. He works in finance, which makes him sound more boring than he is. We started dating in the way everyone dated in 2020, which is to say mostly on FaceTime, with the occasional terrifying walk to a Coles. I won't dwell on the lockdown part. Everyone has a lockdown story. The relevant facts are that we moved in together when the rules eased in November 2020, we got engaged in May 2021, and we got married in a tiny registry office ceremony in November 2021 with his parents in the room and mine on Zoom from a kitchen in Leeds.
We lodged our 820 and 801 application in March 2022. We did it ourselves, without a migration agent. Honestly, we thought we had it nailed.
We had photos. We had a lease in both our names (I'd been added as a co-tenant when our lease renewed in mid-2021, so we'd been formally co-tenants for almost a year by then). We had four Form 888s from friends and family. We had wedding photos. We had a long relationship statement that I wrote and that Marcus edited. We had screenshots of conversations going back to early 2020.
What we did not have, looking back, were any bills in both our names. The electricity was in Marcus's name from before I moved in. Internet was in his name. Council rates were in his name (he owned the place). My income went into my own bank account, his went into his, and we transferred to each other when one of us was paying for something. We were modern professionals in our thirties. We did it the way every other couple our age did it. That was the whole problem.
The first sign of trouble came in April 2023, more than a year into the wait. We got a Section 57 Natural Justice letter. I had to look up what that meant. It is a letter from the case officer saying they have concerns about your application and they're giving you a chance to respond before they refuse it. The wording is polite and bureaucratic and absolutely terrifying once you figure out what it is actually saying.
The case officer was not sure the relationship was genuine. They wanted more on the financial side. They wanted more on what they called "social context." We had 28 days to respond.
We wrote a response. We added more photos. We added screenshots of bank transfers between us. We had two more friends do statutory declarations (although we did Form 888s instead, and that bit at least we got right). We sent it off feeling reasonably good about it, then two months later the refusal email arrived and we realised our response had been almost the same thing as the original application, just longer. We had added volume. We had not addressed what was actually being asked.
The refusal letter itself is a strange document. It is polite. It is structured. It quotes the Migration Regulations. It does not say we don't believe you. What it says is that the delegate is not satisfied, on the balance of probabilities, that the relationship is genuine and continuing. There were three specific findings. Our finances were not commingled. Our four Form 888 declarations lacked specific examples and were largely repetitive of one another. Our social evidence was concentrated around the wedding event itself rather than the years before and after.
The day the refusal arrived, I sat on the kitchen floor for about an hour. Marcus came out of his work call and read the email and was very quiet. We did not talk about it that night. We watched two episodes of something and went to bed. That was the only bad week. I am not going to make this piece about that part.
The next morning I started reading. The 21-day clock had begun and I needed to figure out what we were doing. The first thing I learned is that you have 21 days from the date of the decision (not the date you receive it, which sometimes lags by a day or two) to apply to the Administrative Review Tribunal for a merits review. Miss the 21 days and you lose the right to appeal, full stop, no extensions.
The second thing I learned is that I could not just lodge a new 820 onshore. Section 48 of the Migration Act bars you from lodging most onshore visa applications after a refusal while you are still in Australia, unless your case fits a narrow exception. There is an exception for partner visas, but it is specific and it did not apply to us cleanly. The migration agent we eventually called (Helena, a small firm in Carlton, recommended by a friend of Pip's, of course) walked us through three options on a phone call that I took standing up in the kitchen, and she recommended ART review.
The ART filing fee was $3,496. The total we spent with Helena over the next eighteen months came to $8,247, which we paid in instalments. I cancelled my Pilates subscription. I cancelled our streaming services except the one neither of us could live without. I picked up extra freelance work in the evenings. We lived a bit smaller for a while. I had to tell my parents what was happening, which I had been putting off for months, and that conversation was the hardest part of the whole year.
My sister Katie came to visit in August 2023, which we had booked back when we were still hopeful. She knew about the refusal but I had not told her the full extent of it. We took her up to the Blue Mountains for a weekend, and on the drive back she said you don't have to pretend with me, and I cried for about ten minutes in the passenger seat. I had not realised I was pretending. She flew back to the UK and I never quite got around to telling her how much that car ride helped.
The wait for the ART hearing was 17 months and 11 days. I know the exact count because I had a calendar app and I checked it more often than I should have. The thing about appeal queues is that nobody warns you how long they are. The Department's refusal had felt fast in retrospect (a year and a bit of waiting, then a few months of confused responding). The tribunal felt slow. Slow in a different way. You exist in a kind of state of waiting that has no information in it. You cannot ask. You cannot ring up and check. You just wait for the email to come.
The hearing was held by video link from a small windowless office in the CBD, in Helena's office. I wore the blazer I had worn to our wedding registry, which felt right at the time and slightly silly when I think about it now. Marcus wore a shirt without a tie. Helena was beside me. We logged in at 9:55am. The Tribunal Member came on screen at 10:02am.
The hearing went for two hours and thirty-five minutes, not the three hours Helena had said it might. The Member asked me about the first time Marcus and I met. She asked me whose name was on what. She asked me about Marcus's mum, and what she had said when she met me. She asked me whether my parents had known about Marcus before the wedding (yes, for two years). She asked me what we had done for our first anniversary (cheap pizza at home; I had forgotten to plan something). She asked Marcus the same questions in a slightly different order. Helena had prepared us for this. We had done a mock hearing two weeks earlier where she made us answer questions cold, without conferring. I had hated that practice run and was now grateful for it.
At the end, the Member said she would consider the matter. The video call ended. Helena and I sat there in silence for a moment, then she said I think that went as well as it could have, which is the kind of thing migration lawyers say when they do not want to jinx anything.
The Tribunal decision came in December 2024. The Member's decision was to set aside the Department's refusal and remit the case to the Department with directions to reconsider it according to the law. That is a long way of saying we had won the hearing. But (and this is the bit nobody warned us about) winning the ART hearing does not get you the visa. The Tribunal sends the matter back to the Department. The Department then re-opens the case and considers it again. That re-consideration can take months.
In our case it took until April 2025. Five months after the Tribunal's decision. I was checking ImmiAccount every Tuesday morning because that is apparently when Home Affairs tends to push notifications, and on a Tuesday in April there it was: visa decision. The 820 was granted. The 801 stayed in the system for the permanent stage to be considered, which it always would.
That moment was strange. I had expected to feel something like elation. What I actually felt was tired. Marcus said thank god, which is the most religious thing he has ever said.
I am putting these down here because I needed to put them down somewhere. They are about our case, our specific gaps, and the things I will be obnoxious about with any friend who asks me for partner-visa advice for the rest of my life.
We are permanent residents now. The 801 was granted in March this year, which was the day Marcus came home and saw me sitting on the couch reading the grant letter, and started laughing instead of speaking. Four years from lodgement to permanent.
The Origin bill is in both our names now. It has been since June 2025, which is a date I am slightly embarrassed about. Marcus still says I told you so. I let him.
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A personal account of one couple's partner visa refusal, ART appeal, and grant. It is not legal advice and is not a substitute for advice on your own application. For advice on your situation, find a registered migration agent at mara.gov.au.
